Before I start getting too wordy, let me just say this; we all like to think that we have healthy boundaries. Unfortunately, this perception is not the relationship reality. So before you skip this article thinking you’re airtight in the boundaries department, keep reading. You will definitely be doing some self-reflection.
How many #RelationshipGoals have you developed but find yourself in the same disconnected rut? Many of us have this vision of the partner, friend, parent, or spouse that we want for ourselves, yet for some reason that vision starts to feel more like a daydream. Sustaining, maintaining, and fostering a lasting connected relationship is difficult. I mean just think about this, focusing on your day to day life and emotions, while attempting to care and support other's emotional experiences and life. Do you get the visual of the person on the unicycle attempting to balance the dishes all while some lucky person just throws on more dishes? Well I do!
Let's get this straight before we go any further, physically being alone is not the same as the emotional experience of loneliness. Although they can occur exclusively of each other, loneliness and being alone can also occur at the same time, which explains why some people confuse the two. No matter the way loneliness transpires, it can deeply impact your ability to begin, sustain, and/or maintain healthy relationships. So what makes loneliness and being alone different? Being alone is about physical space, not having an actual presence around you. This can be easily altered and has less of an impact on your emotional world. Whereas loneliness is a longing for connection; a strong desire to encounter emotional closeness with yourself or others.